Heavenly Father’s grace shows families the way

The majority of Native Hawaiian families have a long way to go in repairing their relationships with one another. Still feeling the deep impact of colonization, most of the Native Hawaiian families are still facing challenges with jealousy, self-hatred, self-centeredness, bitterness, unforgiveness and doubt.

Honestly, from time to time I find myself engaging with all, many or some of what I just mentioned, however I strive to adhere in keeping my mind and heart open to learn and move forward. Ironically some of my family may disagree with this statement.

Don’t get me wrong, there is an undeniable infinite love within the Native Hawaiian family, however conveying and expressing our love to one another we often make rigid. Colonization’s purpose was meant to wipe our minds of our memories of our ‘ohana and put artificial memories and false hope in something foreign.

I went back to school and got a higher education and thought this is what it took for restoration. However, returning back to church and living for Heavenly Father wholeheartedly (remembering I am a work in progress) has revealed to me that this is the only way anything will ever be achieved. Out of Heavenly Father’s perfect love we are shown through his grace how to put families back together and only if we welcome him as he does not intrude.

I want to remind the reader that I speak not from a distance, but as a direct family member of my generation.

Desmond Yap